Any time you're about to do some change work with people, you want to first go ahead and set a coaching framework inside their mind that will answer their questions around how does life coaching work.
This post is for life coaches who want to learn the most effective coaching framework for their coaching sessions, as well as for people who want to learn how life coaching actually works with one of our ICF-certified coaches.
Now the "Change Work Framework" is basically made up of seven key elements. And the first thing you have to do when you are working with yourself or others (and the most critical step) is to get permission.
Coaching Framework “Change Work Framework” - Step 1: Get Permission
So how does life coaching work? The first step is you need to get permission. If you do not have permission, nothing is going to work. Anybody can change their life as long as you are giving permission to do it.
I believe that most of what I did when I used to do energy healing and work with people with chronic terminal illnesses and see them heal themselves completely is give them permission. I just allowed them to give themselves permission to actually create a result.
Therefore, when you start a coaching session, you want to provide an environment that allows your coaching clients to give themselves permission to transform.
The first thing I do with a client is I get their permission, whether I'm trying to elicit your results, whether I'm trying to get you aligned, trying to set up a plan with you, getting you to implement something, or whether I'm trying to get you to develop yourself. No matter what I'm doing, I make sure that I have permission as a starting point.
Step 2: Set The Rules
The second thing that I want to do when setting up a coaching framework is I want to set the rules of how the coaching session works. What you can say, what you can't say, how you can feel… just the actual rules of the coaching session.
There are five rules that I generally want to set. Once I've set the rules and I've got your permission, then I begin a process that has two parts to it.
Step 3: Evaluation And Explanation
Evaluation is where I evaluate the issue that you want to work on. But if you do not want to work on an issue, then I just explain whatever we're going to do next.
Step three has two parts to it because you don't always have to evaluate a problem to work with someone. In fact, you're going to learn successful coaching methods here where you don't even have to ask them what the problem is.
Even if you have zero knowledge of the problem, you'll be able to help them transform with no problems at all.
So, I don't need to know what your problem is. I don't need to evaluate it in any way shape or form. However, if I do need to know what it is, then I do a short evaluation where I get you to score the problem out of 10. I ask you a few questions, and away we go.
You don't spend hours talking about the problem. We just spend enough time to evaluate it so that you know after the change work, that something has actually occurred.
I like to look for actual scoring changes in my clients. I want to score you before I do something and afterwards because I am scientific in my approach to things. I want to make sure it worked. And you’ll be able to tell me if it worked by scoring it.
If it didn't, I'm not going to say that you got it wrong. I'm going to say, "Well, let's try it again. Let's try something different."
Remember, rescuers blame you if it doesn't work. As for amateur coaches, they don’t want to know if it worked or not. They hide from it. While great coaches, on the other hand, if it doesn't work, they take responsibility for that and try it again.
So after a coaching session, I want you to look me in the eye and tell me if it worked or not. If it didn't work, let's try it again. If not, let's try something different but just be open enough to just be scientific. Don't take it personally. You want the best results for your clients.
Step 4: Do The Process
The fourth step to the coaching framework “Change Work Framework” is once you've evaluated the problem, the next thing you want to do is to actually do the process itself. The process is where you actually go through the different coaching methods of getting results with people, and as I said, you're going to learn seven core ones here at this coaching program.
Step 5: Future Pacing
Once you've done the process, you now have to do something called future pacing. Future pacing is used in a variety of all forms of psychology and all the different strains of psychology.
If you trace them back to their origins, they all have some form of future pacing in them. Even the most ancient cultures on the planet that did dreaming, landscaping, journeying and soul retrievals used future pacing.
They all had an element of you going into the future and experiencing the reality of what you had just achieved. Therefore, predominantly, every technique you'll ever use has an element of future pacing in it.
Step 6: Analysis
The next one is an analysis. An analysis is basically where you analyse whether or not there has been a hit - whether or not you've actually got the result. So the evaluation step is to find out where they're at now, and the analysis is where you analyse if there was any change at all that occurred just then. Did something shift? Did energy move? Did you get an epiphany? Did something actually occur?
Step 7: Boundaries
If the analysis says, "Yes, that did happen. There was some change.", then all you'll do now is set up some boundaries.
There is an acronym that you can use to remember the steps to this coaching framework which is P.R.E.P. F.A.B. So, prep to be fabulous. Fabulous is not really a word that I typically use a lot, but if you want to easily remember it, it's P.R.E.P. F.A.B.
So, any time I'm getting ready to coach someone and do some type of change work, I want to prep myself to be fabulous and prep them to be fabulous as well.
Coaching Framework: The “Change Work Framework” – In Conclusion
This is pretty much the coaching framework that all change goes through. After thousands of hours of doing change work, but also working with people doing change work and observing other people's processes, you realise that pretty much everybody does this in some way, shape or form.
To recap, get their permission, set the rules, evaluate then explain. Once you've done that, do the process. Once you've done the seven core ones, future pace. Once you've done future pacing, do an analysis. Once you've done the analysis, set some boundaries. And if you do this every time you do change work with a client, it's just going to be very clear for them where they're going, and everything starts to make sense.
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