So, what is success for you? Is it money, fame, prestige, respect from others? How do you define success? Here’s how I look at success and how you can achieve your version of success.
After 12 and a half years of coaching, one thing that I get from clients all of the time is that they want to be successful.
And it makes sense right? We all want to be successful!
But what surprises me though is when I ask the client to tell me, "What does success mean to you?", they almost can never answer the question.
Now this is an interesting thing, right?
For example, if I said to you, "All right, I want you to go ahead and plug in some coordinates into your GPS for me."
Naturally, you would reply with, "All right Ben, where are we going?"
And then if I reply to you with, "I don't know, but plug it in. Plug in the coordinates."
Your response would again be, "Well Ben, where are we going?"
And then imagine if I said again, "I don't know but just plug it in and let's start driving."
You would have to think that there's something wrong with me!
How can we plug coordinates into a GPS if you don't even know where you're going and then straight away, you want to start driving?
There are people out there that are trying to get to a destination called "success", and they don't even know where it is.
They don't know what it looks like. They don't know what it feels like.
This may not seem like a big thing, but it is.
If people are striving to achieve a goal but they don't know the meaning of that goal, it dramatically affects the behaviours and actions they take in the here and now.
I was doing IT recruitment for some years, and I wasn't really fulfilled at all. In fact, I was pretty unfulfilled.
I was successful at what I did. I was also achieving great results. Everyone would look at what I was doing and would say, "You're doing great. You're doing great numbers. You're placing a lot of people. You're getting great successes."
But to me, I just didn't feel successful.
What Is Success For You?
I thought, no one's ever asked me to do that. No one's ever asked me to take the time out to actually work out, what does success mean to me?
So, I started to write out what success meant to me. The very first thing was to do something that my mum would be proud of (yes, I know it sounds a bit corny!). I never realised that before, but that was a core driver for me.
Secondly, I worked out that success would also be having handwritten cards from people’s lives that I had changed through coaching - that I would know I was successful because I would have handwritten cards from people with whom I had worked with.
But let's face it, they do all the changing themselves. You just get to assist them and guide them along the way.
Handwritten cards from clients would signify that I had such a meaningful impact in their life that they would take the time out of their busy lives to make me a handwritten card.
I imagined having one of those deep, big filing cabinet kind of drawers that were full of handwritten cards from my clients. I imagined that to be the pinnacle of success for me.
Being driven by wanting to feel that I was doing something that my mum would be proud of and that I would have a drawer full of handwritten cards, I finally knew what success was because up until that point in my life, success had a dollar sign in front of it. It was a figure. A number.
What Success Isn't
I had been chasing this dollar sign for most of my life but always ending up in debt the whole time. In fact, I had been in debt from about 14 years of age.
Here's what I’ve learned - anyone who chases money, they rarely catch it! In fact, it was Richard Branson that said, "If you get into something just for the money, you're better doing nothing at all."
I didn't realise this because I had been programmed by society, by the kind of people that I was hanging around with, that success was all about wealth... that it was all about a financial figure... but that's just not who I am.
I love earning an incredible income and having an uncapped earning potential. I love travelling around the world. I love the lifestyle that I have because of the coaching industry, so don't get me wrong. You do earn an incredible income doing this. But I'm not driven by a number.
Realising You're Successful
For me, that wasn't the definition of success. When I focused on these handwritten cards, I started to really fall in love with the craft and fall in love with what was meaningful to me.
Within about two and a half to three years, I remember coming home one day, walking into my home office and pulling open the drawer, and putting another card in realising that that drawer was in fact now full of cards. Then it hit me. I was successful.
The first time in my life I felt successful. Why? Because coaching is something that my mum is proud of me doing and because of the handwritten cards that I get from my coaching clients.
The first time you realise it, it's like those goosebumps that run through your body. It was like this little thing at the top of my head just clicked, and I just got this shiver all the way through my system. For the first time in my life, I was successful.
What Does Success Mean To You?
I guess this video and blog are just me having a bit of a share. I couldn't wish for anything more enough than for you to just really get clear answers to the questions, “What is success for you?” and, “How do you define success?”
Take some time today to just write down what does success mean to you?
Get a piece of paper and just write, “The meaning of success to me is...”, then just let it all flow. Get it really clear inside your mind.
Once you define it and get it clear, try to get it down into one sentence and then put that sentence down below.
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Remember, once you punch in the coordinates into that GPS and you know exactly where you're going, the entire journey becomes a breeze.
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