Happy new year and welcome to 2013!

For so long now people have been literally punishing themselves because they haven't kept their end of the bargain...with themselves. Maybe it's the diet plan they didn't stick to. Maybe it's the exercise they didn't commit to all the way or maybe it's a saving plan they simply can't do.

Whatever the reason is, people convince themselves that they don't have will power. They begin to form a belief that "I am lacking will power". My question is:

Is it the will power that they are lacking or do they just need a new system to follow that's going to allow them to get the result they want?

Now, You might have heard the marshmallow experiment done with some pre-school children. They sat kids individually in a room and they put a marshmallow in front of them.

They said if you don't eat that marshmallow, then when we come back we will give you another marshmallow. They did research and they observed children who are able to resist temptation (delay the gratification) were less likely to have behavioral problems and actually have significantly higher grades.

Now does that mean the people who ate the marshmallow were doomed for life? Of course it doesn't mean that. They ran the experiment again and what they discovered is they can actually train kids using different techniques to increase their will power. And when they gave the kids access to right type of tools they actually had a 60% chance of being able to resist the temptation of eating the marshmallow.

So what they really discovered is when given the right types of tools you are bound to be more successful. In fact they found other little example of how you can be more successful. One of them was simply writing down the goal. In fact, what they discovered is if you actually wrote down your goal or even type it down with your fingers on your keyboard, you are 40% more likely to achieve that goal.

If you happen to enlist the assistance of someone else to hold you accountable, you can increase that to as high as 60% to achieve that goal. So, just think about that. If you write down your goals and enlist the support of somebody else: you have a 60% chances of actually completing that goal.

Now, this to me is really game changing idea. Both that we can increase our will power by using the right technology, and we can learn delayed gratification and we can also find ways in which to achieve our goals with less effort.

So what areas of your life you are currently not getting results you are desiring? Because I am willing to bet that given the right type of techniques and technologies you will be able to achieve outcomes well beyond what you believe possible.

Until we meet again, share your light, live your love and do whatever it takes to be our own best friend.

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Ben is the Difference-Maker Mentor and Co-founder of Authentic Education. He is exquisite at inspiring people to share their message, make a difference in the world and live abundantly on purpose.

Ben has been featured in media such as the Today Show, Inc.com, Entrepreneur.com, Huffington Post and News.com.au.